I am an EMDR UK trained therapist based in Rickmansworth and I can guide you through, enabling you to process traumatic memories and reduce the emotional distress associated with them.

 

I have had training from Babeth Rothschild, Janina Fisher, Arielle Schwartz, Bessel van der Kolk, Pat Ogden and Richard Schwartz.


What is Trauma?

Trauma is a natural emotional response to a very stressful or distressing event that can have an impact on a person's ability to cope and function. It may happen after a single incident, or build up over time through repeated or ongoing experiences.  Trauma often involves a threat to one's safety, survival and sense of security.

Examples of traumatic experiences include:

  • One-off events such as an accident, assault or a natural disaster
  • Ongoing difficulties such as an illness, abuse or sudden loss
  • Childhood experiences of neglect, harm or disrupted attachment
  • Witnessing violence or harm to others
  • Livng with ongoing stressors such as poverty, discrimination, unsafe environments, or community violence
  • Collective experiences such as war, terrorism, or oppression

 

What are the signs and symptoms of trauma?

Everyone reacts differently to traumatic events, depending on the type of trauma, as well as the support they have during and after the event. Some people recover naturally, while others may feel stuck in patterns of fear, anxiety, or disconnection, long after the event. When reminders of what happened don’t fade, they can develop symptoms relating to the trauma they've experienced. Some common experiences include:

  • Intrusive memories, flashbacks or triggers that act as reminders. Some individuals can loose touch with what’s happening around.
  • Nightmares or disturbed sleep.
  • Feeling constantly on edge (hypervigilance), easily startled, or unable to relax or even panic attacks.
  • Avoidance e.g. staying away from people, places, or situations that bring back painful memories.
  • Emotional numbness, this can be feeling detached, disconnected, or unable to enjoy life.
  • Changes in mood, from sadness, guilt, shame, irritability, anger, emptiness or hopelessness and even suicidality.
  • Difficulties in relationships. This could vary from struggling to trust, feeling distant from others, to totally withdrawing socially.
  • Unhealthy coping e.g using alcohol, drugs, overworking, or other behaviours to try to block out feelings.

These reactions are normal survival responses in the event of traumatic experiences. For some people, symptoms ease with time and support. For others, it may be hard to speak of those traumatic experiences and they may develop symptoms such as post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) or complex trauma, making daily life, relationships, or work feel overwhelming. Only a small proportion actually develop PTSD.

Childhood trauma and adult life

Trauma experienced in childhood can continue to affect you as an adult, shaping how you see yourself, how you respond to stress, and how you connect with others. Therapy can help untangle these patterns, so you no longer feel controlled by the past.


How do you heal from trauma?

If you’ve experienced trauma, it’s important to remember that your reactions are normal human responses to distressing events. You coped the best way you could at the time and healing is always possible, especially with the right support.

 

How can therapy help?

Working with a trauma-trained therapist can help you safely process painful experiences and begin to move forward. Therapy offers:

  • A safe, confidential space to explore your feelings without judgment.
  • Support in reducing distressing symptoms like flashbacks, anxiety, or emotional numbness.
  • Tools for building resilience, emotional regulation, and healthier coping strategies.
  • A chance to reconnect with yourself and others in a way that feels safe.

Healing doesn’t mean forgetting what happened. It means learning to live with your experiences in a way that no longer overwhelms you, giving you space to feel safer, stronger, and more connected.

 

Approaches to Trauma Therapy

There’s no single “right” way to heal. Different approaches suit different people. In my practice, I may draw on:

  • EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing): a structured, evidence-based approach proven to help reduce PTSD and trauma symptoms.
  • CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy): to challenge unhelpful thoughts and build new perspectives.
  • Integrative and relational approaches: supporting you at your own pace, focusing on safety, trust, and connection.
  • Body-based awareness and grounding strategies: I use the Polyvagal theory to help regulate your nervous system and ease anxiety, customising strategies to your unique needs and preferences.

Trauma Training

I am a trauma trained therapist. I have received specialist training in trauma treatment models, trauma theory, somatic approaches, and polyvagal-informed practice. My work is informed by intensive learning with leading trauma experts and leading figures in trauma theory and somatic psychology including Bessel van der Kolk, Janina Fisher, Babette Rothschild, Pat Ogden, Linda Cundy and others. I integrate systemic and trauma-informed perspectives to support individuals, couples, and families processing complex relational and developmental trauma.Trauma treatment should only be provided by qualified mental health practitioners who are specialy trained in trauma specific models. That means I can work safely and effectively with traumatic memory, PTSD, complex trauma, and dissociation and I can manage trauma-related risk, dysregulation, and nervous system responses.

My training includes EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy. I also integrate other modalities sich as Trauma informed CBT, Internal family systems and transactional analysis.

 

 

What is EMDR Therapy?

Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR): EMDR is a specialised therapeutic approach designed to help individuals process and heal from traumatic memories. This method uses bilateral stimulation, such as guided eye movements, to reduce the emotional impact of trauma and promote healing.

  • Recognised by WHO and NICE
  • Effective for PTSD, anxiety, and other trauma-related symptoms
  • Often delivers significant improvements in fewer sessions

EMDR can be used as a stand-alone therapy and is immensely powerful in many instances and sometimes I use it as a complementary therapeutic tool. It's simple and safe and you can find out more about it here: 

 

Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing (EMDR) – PTSD UK

 

Whether or not you choose to incorporate EMDR as part of your therapy is up to you. All my work is tailored to the unique needs of each individual and designed to make you feel safe and relaxed.

 

 

Analogy: Being "trauma-trained" is like being a trauma surgeon, you don’t just recognise wounds, you know how to treat them. 

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